Pain felt in your pelvis is usually vague because all your organs are internal and not well supplied with pain receptors. It is therefore difficult to decide where the pain is coming from. Pelvic pain can originate in your genital, urinary or digestive tract. Probably the best way to sort out vague pelvic pain is to look for other symptoms, which may give a clue to its origin. For example, an abnormal vaginal discharge or irregular periods might point to your uterus and fallopian tubes as a likely source. Urinary symptoms would suggest your bladder, and diarrhea or constipation in your bowel. Irritable bowel syndrome, when the pain comes from the lower bowel, is a very common cause of pelvic pain among young women. It should always be considered when the pain is long lasting, especially if there are bowel symptoms. Read the rest of this entry »
The term ‘Urinary Tract Infections’ (UTIs) and the word ‘Cystitis’ are often used to mean the same thing. Strictly speaking, however, cystitis just means an inflammation of the bladder (which may be the result of infection or irritation); whereas UTI implies that any or all parts of the urinary tract are infected. UTI is therefore probably the better term. UTI’s are common in women from puberty onwards. One in five women experience UTI at some time in her life. Read the rest of this entry »
Pain felt as urine flows through the urethra results from either an irritant effect of urine on the lining of the urethra or unusual sensitivity of the urethra lining. Pain passing urine is medically referred to as Dsysuria. The most common cause of Dysuria is a urinary tract infection (UTI) commonly referred to as cystitis. With a UTI, the urethra is inflamed by the infection, making it sensitive to urine passing through. This discomfort is made worse because the infected urine is more irritant that usual as a result of the infection.
Situations in which urine irritates the urethra without the urethra being inflamed are rare, but can include excessive alcohol in your urine after a drinking binge.
Dysuria also occurs when the urethra or vulva is inflamed by something other than infection. This may be excessive rubbing and chaffing, such as when wearing very tight jeans, or from prolonged sexual intercourse. Inflammation of your vulva can also affect your urethra because these structures are so close together.
Urinary Frequency
A different symptom is caused by the irritated muscle in the inflamed bladder wall contracting too readily, so you need to pass urine frequently, and before your bladder is full. This can get so bad that the feeling is almost continuous and, at its extreme, the sensation is so painful and the desire to pass urine so strong that you have to strain to pass only a tiny drop. The bladder seems to squeeze the urine out so strongly that it feels like strangulation. The temptation is to try to avoid this sensation by reducing the volume of your urine still further by not drinking, but this will make the condition worse.
Women who complain of a vaginal discharge have usually noticed that their normal vaginal secretions have increases, decreased, or changed color, consistency or odor. This alteration can be the effect of normal changes in your body, such as in pregnancy, or the result of something going wrong, usually an infection. Read the rest of this entry »
When I wake up in the morning and see her soft, undressed body beside me, her eyes closed and mouth slightly open, like a dainty little angel that just fell from the sky, I feel a burning desire to love her, badly. These are the feelings of men who wake up with a hard-on, and men who are simply in love with the idea of morning sex. Unfortunately, most women do not share the same enthusiasm for morning glory as they feel bedroom activity is best reserved for nighttime. The sexual expressions of men and women have for centuries been a subject for debate. Here’s a lowdown on why men crave for a steamy sexual romp at that hour, while women would rather get on with the day, pronto.
Says Dr. Kamal Khurana, a Delhi-based marriage and relationship expert, “Sex is a biological need, and you tend to relish it most when relaxed. A man feels most expressive when he wakes up as fantasies are touching him at that hour. And to find his partner lying next to him triggers an urge for sex.” Dr. Khurana believes that place and availability are also reasons to initiate early action among men. “But in the case of women, she needs to be emotionally triggered first,” he adds.
Then why do women not feel that emotional connect in the very hours, and are in a rush to begin the day? “In India, such a trend has been identified only in the last decade. In today’s scenario both the partners go for work and return spent at the end of the day. The stress levels are very high at nighttime, and to get into the mood for a stormy lovemaking session may not come naturally,” explains Dr. Bhavna Barmi, senior clinical psychologist at Escorts Heart Institute.
She relates women’s abstinence from sex first-thing-in-the-morning to their higher emotional and sexual maturity. “Men would first like to rejuvenate and then start the stressful day ahead. Blame it on the multi-tasking required right from the morning of a working woman. From showering, readying breakfast, to packing off the kids, if any, to school, it is multi-taking all the way for her. While, the only responsibility of a man is to look after his personal hygiene and plan the day ahead,” she elaborates. “And sex can become a tad mechanical when both the partners are not at the same emotional level,” she adds.
Dr. Rajendra Barve, a psychiatrist at the IIT hospital, Mumbai, feels that this brief mismatch in their need for physical intimacy can cause serious strain on a relationship. “There is more freshness in the morning, the growth hormones are pumping, and the vigour of the body is restored from a good night’s sleep. But when a woman wakes up, she is pre-occupied about the daylong chores and may not be instantly switched on by the idea,” says Dr. Barve. Perhaps, a woman’s way of looking at sex is very different from that of men. As Dr. Barve reasons, “A woman feels the urge for sex when she is emotionally aroused, while a man’s sex drive is governed by power, and a tendency to win over situations.”
“At that hour, if a couple do not experience an emotional and physical high in unison, it can get very difficult for them in the long run. And lovemaking would, little by little, turn into a mundane act between them,” he says. But is there a way men can get their women interested in morning glory?
“As the man you need to wake up a little early and finish with your washing up, before slipping back into the covers again – fresh and fragrant – next to her,” says Ashish, 33, a team leader with an international banking company. To keep a condom handy is another sensible thing to do, he tells us. “A woman likes to be woken up gently, and showered with plenty of caresses and kisses as she opens her eyes,” shares Aditi, 28, an engineer who has recently tied the knot.
After all it’s not that difficult to get your girl interested in morning sex, simply do not scurry, and remember patience and understanding her mood are most valuable in that glorious hour. Start with a warm welcoming smile, follow it up with a tender kiss on her forehead, and you will manage to get that sensual moan out of her!
