Here are 3 defying-exhaustion techniques to improve sex in your marriage:
1. Ask For Help! Sometimes, it is simply impossible to do all things at the same time. That will really exhaust you. If this is the case, the couple should sit down and discuss things as they are. Both spouses should lay their cards on the table and think of ways to lessen each other’s burden. Perhaps a relative can help take care of the kids? Perhaps another sideline will be less exhausting for the husband. Perhaps the wife should also earn. Perhaps the kids are too spoiled. Why not delegate some tasks to them so that the couple can have some private moment each weekend?
2. Be Honest. Using tiredness as an excuse when it really is something else that turns off a spouse from intimacy just isn’t right. And then too, what is claimed to be physical tiredness may actually be emotional exhaustion. For instance, a wife may feel jealous of her husband’s attractive co-worker. She may be emotionally tired of all the suspicion and spying but she claims she is tired because she has too many things to do. (Translated as, “You don’t take me out on dates after office hours because you’d rather have coffee with that sexy co-worker of yours!”) Couples should be completely honest with each other. It is easier to remedy a problem if both parties know the root cause of it all.
3. Sex Isn’t Only Intercourse. On certain days, the spouses may be really too tired to make love. But they should not forget that intimacy may be expressed simply by snuggling, by kissing or touching. There are many ways to make love: there’s oral sex and a lot more.
Intimacy–is an important element of marriage. The nemesis of intimacy could be exhaustion. But that is only if it is really physical exhaustion that makes a couple “too tired” to love. After all, the truth is, you never grow tired of loving if you love the right person!
